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Emotional Bypassing - Do your insides match your outsides?

There’s a surprising way that you might be abandoning yourself, and you probably don’t even know you’re doing it

 

It’s called emotional bypassing, and if you've got this habit, it's playing a significant part in why you feel stuck in "meh-ville" of dissatisfaction AND why you find yourself feeling powerless in getting your relationships to change!

 

Emotional bypassing occurs when we subconsciously switch an emotion we’re not comfortable experiencing, for another more “acceptable” emotion. 

 

Whether an emotion is “acceptable” or “unacceptable”  will depend on how you were programmed as a child.

 

For example, if you were criticized as a child for feeling sad, maybe made to feel silly for crying, or worse, threatened for your sadness (“I’ll give you something to cry about!”) You may have become afraid of your own sadness. 

 

To keep yourself...

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I Got My Eyes Fixed....

I got my eyelids done; a mini brow lift too…Shameless.
 
I’ve been laid up all week, icing, sleeping, and nothing else. I temporarily can’t see for shit, and have limited energy, so I’ve been spending most of the week in bed, in silence…talking and listening to God.
 
“God people” used to bug me out; I deemed them intellectual weaklings…sheep drinking up the opiate of the masses. But secretly, I was jealous that they could trust in something so completely as to feel peace, cuz I couldn’t trust shit and peace gave me anxiety; I was habituated to fear, chaos and pain.
 
(On an aside, some “God people” ARE sheep (no pun intended) but that has nothing to do with their faith)
 
Point is, I was always too cynical, too scared, and actually too much of a sheep myself to admit that I yearned to surrender to, and merge with, something greater than my own thinking mind.
 
When I finally...
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