“What you said, about getting SMALL when having hard conversations with your partner….I DO that all the time!! It feels like I’m talking to my Dad! What IS that about?!”

My friend said this to me this morning, after seeing one of my posts on Instagram.

What I shared resonated with her COMPLETELY, and I know it probably resonates with you too, so lemme tell you what that whole “getting small” thing is all about……

But I’m going to warn you…it’s mind bending stuff that will disrupt the way you see yourself, which will change EVERYTHING, so I’ll take it slow, 5 little steps at a time:

1. You are NOT a singular Self; the latest data in consciousness studies and therapeutics, points to a “multiple self aspect” framework that posits that the “You” you think you are, is actually a collection of “yous” (not that I needed to read “the white pages” to know this...

We need to talk about something that might feel uncomfortable, but holding it in isn’t healthy, so let’s see if I can help...

I’ll paint a little picture….

In your work/professional/creative life, you kick ass. 

You’re calm, clear and direct about what you need, and you’re not afraid to set expectations, give feedback,  set boundaries, or push back when other people try to challenge your boundaries.

You show up for yourself and your goals consistently, respectfully, without making apologies for it, or feeling the need to justify it.  

But in your personal relationships, you’re like a different person…

This person has to over-explain and justify what she wants with a bunch of “why’s…….”telling it like it is” make her nauseous, setting boundaries feels super awkward, and enforcing...