“What you said, about getting SMALL when having hard conversations with your partner….I DO that all the time!! It feels like I’m talking to my Dad! What IS that about?!”

My friend said this to me this morning, after seeing one of my posts on Instagram.

What I shared resonated with her COMPLETELY, and I know it probably resonates with you too, so lemme tell you what that whole “getting small” thing is all about……

But I’m going to warn you…it’s mind bending stuff that will disrupt the way you see yourself, which will change EVERYTHING, so I’ll take it slow, 5 little steps at a time:

1. You are NOT a singular Self; the latest data in consciousness studies and therapeutics, points to a “multiple self aspect” framework that posits that the “You” you think you are, is actually a collection of “yous” (not that I needed to read “the white pages” to know this...

This is gonna be an email that costs me subscribers, but there's something you need to hear, whether you like it or not....you DESERVE to hear it...

So here goes:

The only problem you have, is that you think you have a problem.

It’s my experience that most women in midlife are struggling from essentially the exact same issue: they’re having an identity crisis.

Sometimes, in certain situations, with certain people, while engaged in certain activities (usually work/professional/creative stuff) they’re confident. 

They appreciate themselves. They believe in themselves, and are positive, hopeful and happy. They identify as a capable, strong has-her-shit -together grown ass woman.…..They LOVE themselves. 

But at OTHER times, in certain situations, with certain people, while engaged in certain activities (usually personal...