I’m embarrassed to admit that I didn’t know shit about my period until my early 40s.

Obviously, I knew that I HAD a monthly menstrual cycle that made wearing white pants inconvenient. And I knew that in the days leading up to my period, I was a carb-craving, emotionally unstable, hyper-sensitive, crampy, bloated raw bundle of nerves.

And of course, I had a basic understanding that my body operated in a 28 day cycle that involved all sorts of hormones that worked to construct, and then deconstruct, my womb for creating, growing and birthing a Life. 

This smidge of knowledge was congealed from sex ed classes in the 80s, limited and painfully awkward conversations with my mother in middle school, a few Cosmo articles, conversations with girlfriends, and my own observations.

Everything I was “taught” about my cycle could be neatly wrapped up in one word: ENDURANCE.

My period was something I just had to “deal with” and “get through” for a week each month. 

On th...

Here’s the deal….you CANNOT wait until shit hits the fan in your life to turn to your Spirituality to “save you” 

You can’t wait until you’ve turned your brain inside out, THINKING yourself to death, exhausting all your “logical” options, before you raise the white flag and turn to Source as your “hail Mary” move (no pun intended)

Don’t fool yourself into thinking that you can book that yoga retreat, or the once-a-year sound bath ceremony, or shove a rose quartz up your hoo-hoo, click your heels three times, and chant a mantra, hoping that you followed all the instructions correctly, and get the answers you so desperately need!

This is NOT how Spirit operates, as you’ve probably noticed!

It’s NOT that these actions don’t have a time and place…except for maybe the crystal-up-the-hoo hoo part…… and it’s not that Source is judgmental and will withhold your needs because It’s miffed that you only show up when you need something.

Source ALWAYS ...

Hey Sister!

I want to touch base on the whole “True Self” thing because I think it’s an important concept that’s misunderstood. 

Specifically,  I think that this misunderstanding is causing unnecessary  struggle and confusion for people who are committed to a path of self healing and personal development, and frankly that path is tough enough as it is. 

Anything that makes this process unnecessarily harder kinda pisses me off.

I’m obsessed with doing what I can to help others on their journey to end their suffering, doing what I can to make the process more efficient, clear and as easy on the nervous system as possible,  so on that note, let’s discuss….

But just one thing first: this is a skim of this topic; I spend 2 weeks training my clients on this concept, so if you want to dive deeper, you might consider getting on the waitlist for the January cohort of Soul Centered Self.

Moving on….

The True Self concept is as old as Plato (“know thyself” was inscribe...

So I've been feeling down the last couple days.

I've been putzing around the house, wasting my precious, publicly funded kid-free time, eating their Halloween candy, and calling my Mom to chat about nothing, when I have a shit ton of things to do.

I'm not even doing the things I LOVE to do, because I. Just. Don't. Want. To.

When I'm feeling like this....like a soggy human bathmat....my first response is to look for the "whys", which, for this week, are obvious:

1. Hormones..perimenopausal PMS is brutal
2. A beloved family member is going through a personal nightmare that's traumatizing for for our tribe.
3. My last Self Centered Soul cohort ended a week ago, and the come-down from the high of those 2 amazing months working with my Soul Sisters is no joke.

In review, it obviously makes sense that I'm feeling grief, along with emotional, physical and mental fatigue, topped with a sprinkle of existential despair because, in addition to my own personal woes, it feels like the whol...

You should meditate….everybody’s doing it! 

Whether your “problem” is emotional instability, obsessive thoughts, insomnia, anger issues, ADD, anxiety, stress, imbalanced hormones, chronic emotional states, etc., meditation is offered up as “the thing”.

It makes me think of the patriarch in “My Big, Fat, Greek Wedding” who sprays Windex on wounds because…well…..Windex solves every problem!

Here’s the thing: meditation IS a solution for just about every mind-body “problem”.

But there’s another problem…

Most people misinterpret the point of meditation…the WHY of it. And that’s understandable.

It’s only been in the last 100 years that awareness of meditation gained traction with the general public, thanks in large part to Maharishi Mahesh Yoga, who taught the Beatles how to meditate. But it’s still relatively foreign and ambiguous to the average Jane.

Another reason for the confusion around meditation is due to the commoditizing of “spirituality” especially in...

Anger and I have worked really hard over the years to build  a healthy relationship. 

Growing up, I had plenty to be angry about: an alcoholic abusive father, a codependent, manipulative, enabling mother, secrets, loneliness, dysfunction, a religious hijacking of God, undiagnosed ADD, and a Grand Canyon-deep sense of abandonment. 

Plenty of reasons, but no safety to express. If I had expressed my anger, there was a very real chance that I would have literally been killed. 

So I learned to stuff it, ignore it, twist it into something else. 

My rightful anger at someone abusing me, taking advantage of me, disrespecting me, dismissing me, or putting me down, was usually met with tears, an apology on MY part for “what I did wrong” (because I also was raised to think everything was my fault) and then a drop into a chasm of shame.

Because I was trained to NOT feel my feelings through threat of physical/emotional/mental harm from a very early age, I learned to doubt my f...

As I type this, my kids are quiet for the moment, deep in their school work. The birds are singing in the sunshine, and the trees in my yard are all in bloom.

On the surface, the world is still, quiet and peaceful. 

It’s surreal to juxtaposition this immediate experience to what’s happening across the globe. And admittedly, up until the last 48 hours, I was in a frenzy. 

Sanitizing my buildings, my kids, the dog, securing accounts, postponing trips, buying groceries to last for as long as possible, rescheduling clients, preparing to be a full time homeschooling teacher, and any number of odds and ends that suddenly became essential during this time really had me feeling overwhelmed, and I struggled for a minute….okay, for like, a couple days.

But I allowed myself the experience; I allowed myself to feel vulnerable, afraid, anxious, and unsure. I allowed the critical voices in my head to whisper “You should be staying calm right now; you have tools, skills, you should KNOW better”.